Thursday, January 31, 2008

I Was Wrong

...but that doesn't mean your customer service has to get crunk with me.

Ok so I was wrong about the stripe on my car. I wasn't as concerned about the stripe as I was about the door that refused to unlock when you hit the automatic lock/unlock button. But the point of this is to tell you how when I take the car back the owner of said establishment pissed me off once again. He felt the need to prove that I was wrong. He does this by pulling out the old door from my car and leaving it sitting out to show me that I was wrong. Was it that serious? I guess it was for him. Trust and believe the next time my car is in any type of collision I will not be heading to his establishment. Didn't he get the memo--the customer is always right. Even if the customer isn't right refer back to the sentence the customer is always right. I am sure the fact that I won't be returning to his establishment won't hurt him but trust and believe I will feel much better!

I Just Want to Complain

Ok so this has been on my mind for more than six years! Yeah I know that's a long time but it's not my fault people keep bringing it up.

I am a and what? Why do you feel it necessary to say lega.cies should wait to cross grad chapter? I crossed undergrad and I have been active since day one. Forgive me if my mother showed me the greatness that is Al.pha Ka.ppa Alp.ha Sorority, Inc. Trust and believe I worked for my letters and still do even with the unnecessary drama I have to go through. This is the first year that I have not paid my dues on time and honestly it is not my fault. It is my former grad.uate chapter's fault for not sending me my transfer papers. I am on committees and I do the work of the organization. Some of the same people who talk about lega.cies haven't paid dues since they crossed or better yet they still haven't made anybody's line b/c they don't have the qualities that any organization is looking for.

Thanks for listening. I will get down off my soapbox now.

Wednesday, January 30, 2008

Wilding Out

I want to wild out on some people! My uncle needs a job! So why am I feeling out all the stuff for the applications on the internet? My mother is like he needs to get out of this house. He doesn't seemed to press to me if I am feeling out the online applications. I want to scream at the top of my lungs!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so crunk about my Superbowl Gumbo!

The other day I had something deep to blog about and I so forgot what I wanted to blog about. Give me some ideas people!

By the way I am going to stop asking people to comment b/c I realize the only reason why I really, really want comments is b/c I want attention but I know you all come and visit so no need to comment. If you didn't know I love attention!

Today I volunteered at my old primary school! It was interesting and it reinforced the fact that I will never be a teacher. I may work with kids but there will be no classroom full of them. Overall I enjoyed my time there! I was also informed that I would be a speaker at Career Day.

News Story in my neck of the woods: Students arrested for having Xanex (sp?) at school. One brought the Xanex to school and distributed to others. WTF? They were in 6th grade.

Monday, January 28, 2008


I always want to respond to your comments and forget when I am actually on blogger.


Victoria's Secret sells all kinds of different brands. The first pair of shoes I couldn't tell you but the second pair were Steve Madden. When I say I had to politely put those shoes back in the box and send them on their way I did it quick fast and in a hurry.

The girl is the one I gave the hints to. I can't even say they were hints--they were the complete and honest truth. NO CHASER but if she likes it I love it. The problem is I know at least 3 parties involved--not quite sure if there are more than two women involved but from my understanding it is more than two. Let's just call it craziness!

Southern Belle,

I just want to say I really like calling you that especially thinking about your accent when we first met (not that I am one to talk).

I am so ready for sushi in NY/NJ. I want to go to the brunch and have unlimited mimosas!


I just want to say I faithfully read your blog and I am going to start commenting! I promise to do better.


By the way it is official I will be working with children while waiting for the perfect job to come my way. Keep me in your prayers.


So me and the boo are doing well--we made it a whole month without any major arguments. If you know me and my mood swings you will know that this is amazing. I think last year we spent more time not talking to each other than together. I remember two times where I didn't talk to him for at least 2 months straight. The longest time last year was about 16 weeks.

Sunday is the Super Bowl. I am excited but more importantly I get to make my Super Bowl Gumbo. I started this in 2003. Last year I didn't make it b/c I was clearly studying for the bar but I didn't miss the game. I think I am rooting for the Giants but since I don't follow either team it just depends on how I feel on Sunday.

This weekend I got to see my friend fulfill one of her many dreams. I can now call her Soror! She loved my arts and crafts projects. I have pictures and as soon as I get my new cord I will upload. She is one of my closest friends but I don't think she even knows that b/c we don't really talk as often. She is very busy and I understand. I am her sounding board whenever she needs it and I know that I can get the same for her! Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Southern Belle--I realize while reading your blog I don't know if I should comment b/c then I may give away your other identity--so with that being said can I comment on both and not reveal your identity? I want to comment but I want to respect your identity--hope that makes sense. I am also upset that I didn't realize until after the party that we didn't take one picture together.

I want to cook something new but I am such a picky eater that I don't like all the stuff that recipes call for.

I am so crunk for Obama and him being supported by most of the Kennedy family. That random niece is supporting Hillary (ok maybe she isn't random b/c she clearly is/was the Lt. Gov. of MD).

So I got my car fixed about a month ago and the man who fixed it is tripping. The door wasn't put on there right and my car had a stripe. He tells me that my car didn't. I think I would know this best since I have had the car since 1997. Also I kept looking at the stripe thinking it is peeling how can I get that fixed.

I am ready for this coming weekend b/c I am also going to a stepshow. Full weekend--there will be fun had.

So how do I tell a friend to be very careful about a relationship? I gave some obvious hints earlier but clearly it is not getting through. He is still trying to be with his ex-girlfriend as in move away to be with her! What would you do?

The most random thought of this post: I want a baby more than I want to be married but I just don't see me being a single mother. If you know how I feel about being left alone with children you would know why I don't see me being a single mother. By myself with a child all day everyday would not be healthy for the both of us.

How do you feel about giving a man an ultimatum? I think I am against it but it works for some people.

How does it feel to fail the bar? I was thinking about someone who failed the bar by one point and I just look at the board of bar examiners and wonder why not give them the point or take away some points.

I want sushi!

Thursday, January 24, 2008

Just Letting Off Some Steam

So when did I become a personal assistant? My uncle asked me if he had any emails. I check my emails b/c they are mine. Why would I check yours? I don't understand where he finds these women who do whatever he wants them to do.

I am excited about this weekend--you will get your special welcome on Sunday.

Tomorrow is an arts and crafts day among other things.

Where will I be for the Super Bowl? Any suggestions?

Do Valentine's Day presents have to be romantic? Can't I just buy something I know you would like?

D.C. was very interesting. For the people who went out with me on Friday night--black and white panties and a camera phone (LMAO). I will give a full description of the whole weekend later (I know I keep saying that but I really will). Also I had to order a new cord for the camera and it will be shipped out tomorrow.

So I have learned never to order shoes from Victoria's Secret--they are lying about the size of those damn shoes. An 8.5 should never hurt my foot when I first put them on--maybe after I have walked around for awhile. I normally wear b/t a 7.5 and an 8.5 depending on the shoe.

Me and the boo are doing well and have been doing well for almost a month. I feel like I am in the twilight zone. It may be because I am so much more concerned about the job hunt.

It was wonderful seeing all my friends this past weekend. All I have to say is whatever Hampton women are doing ,they are doing it well. No one is aging bad. Some may even look better than they did in school.

Wednesday, January 23, 2008

Don't Beat Me Up

Ok so I know I was supposed to have a blog up by now about the weekend but I wanted to do it with pictures. As you can there are no pictures hence the title don't beat me up. I went to my storage and tried to find the cord for the camera--no cord which means no pictures. I will tell you all about the weekend--even the funny stories b/c you know I always have a story to tell. I'll be back--just let me recover.

Thursday, January 17, 2008


My LS and Jameil's former roommate recently had a beautiful baby girl. She is so precious!

The closer it gets to my trip to DC the more nervous I get. I guess b/c the weekend seems to good to be true. I am afraid that my luggage will be lost. Then one of my friends tells me that flights from Atlanta are being cancelled. I was so upset even though I knew the weather in Atlanta was clearing up and the weather in DC would be clearing up by tomorrow.

Southern Belle in the Big City, I had ants infesting my bed this summer but I never actually saw them or where they came from. I would wash the sheets and they would come back. It wasn't a line of ants so there was no way to find them. I had ant bites all over my legs for a good week. They eventually disappeared.

My LS that got engaged asked me to be a hostess. I am so excited. We talked for a long time yesterday.

I can't find my patent leather clutch that goes with my brand new patent leather shoes. Can you say on the brink of tears? It really is that serious b/c most of my cute stuff is still in storage.

I want to go to NY. I am trying to figure out a way to make the SO piss me off so I can convince myself to go to NY for Valentine's Day weekend and visit the youngin. I think I can do it.

Am I wrong for wanting to see Mad Money?

I guess I will be reading Barack Obama's book on my plane ride to D.C.

I am sure I will have stories to tell when I get back and I can't wait to share them with you! I may even have some pictures b/c I plan to get my camera cord when I go to my storage place tomorrow.

Tuesday, January 15, 2008

Randomness Part 259

Ok so Norbit came on tonight--why do I refuse to stop my t.v. on HBO.

Why are all the young black movies about dancing or stepping or something that I just don't want to watch for two hours? I still have yet to see "Stomp the Yard".

If you didn't hear those damn shoes hurt my feet so I will be looking for more tomorrow.

I need a good book to read on the plane--any suggestions?

So why does all the Old Black Guard feel the need to tear down Obama to build up Hillary? On another political note was it just me or was it a serious slap in the face that Kerry is backing Obama instead of Edwards?

I love me some Suze Orman but I hate when she says "Girlfriend" or "Boyfriend".

I am investing in my first pair of tights tomorrow (I personally wanted to leave those back in the late 80s and early 90s)--thanks Express for the $10 off coupon.

The excitement is building!


Hey all,
Ok so I talked to my supervisor this morning and told him my side of the story which also happens to be the truth. He said that basically what lenders will do is try to get over on his company and the attorney. They were trying to take money away from my supervisor and me. Like I said they don't pay me enough to be dealing with this BS. He told me that what I did was proper protocol. They tried to say that I didn't know what I was doing b/c I called the lender once and the title company twice. Normally I wouldn't have to call either b/c lenders and title companies normally have their ish together and correct information. That obviously was not the case here. Needless to say I hope to never do a HELOC for Chase ever again in life.

On Sunday I happened to see a long last friend at the mall. She just created a tutoring program for underprivileged students. I volunteered to help. Since she lives in the metro Atlanta area she doesn't want to have to come to my area to work on the program. With that being said she semi-offered me the position of District Coordinator. This is a paid job so keep your fingers crossed and send up some prayers for me. When I find out more information I will let you know!

Ok so I am about 20 hours late

Happy Centennial Founder's Day to my lovely Sorors of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc.

There is so much I can say but I will keep it simple: I thank God for the opportunity to be a member of such a wonderful organization. I have made lifelong bonds with some wonderful women who I know that I can call on anytime I need to.

This organization has been through so much but has stood the test of time!

Monday, January 14, 2008

I need a job!

Ok so I get a message today saying that some client has filed a complaint against me. I don't know what the complaint is but I am not getting paid enough for people to be messing with me and my livelihood. I can tell you what went down during the closing.

There were mistakes on a couple of documents. I personally cannot correct documents so there was nothing I could do. I also cannot give her legal advice b/c I am not her attorney. Whenever she had a question of legal substance I sent her to someone else. I called the lender b/c that is what I am required to do when she has questions. Once again I repeat I cannot answer her legal questions b/c I am the lender's attorney. I am slowly losing my mind. I need a steady job where I have someone I can talk to about issues that come up in every day work. This is not a good fit for me. I am about to cry but I stop b/c I know God has something in store for me that is so much better. Please pray for me and my well being!

Will I Ever Find My Voice?

From my journal (I know I have a blog but I am still learning to give my all to the people who read my blog--I love you guys!)

How can I find my voice? I have been known to be crunk when I have issues but looking back on those issues they were all rather small. When I have big issues I remain silet and I know it hurts me in the long run. Sometimes I speak out about my big issues but normally the person makes me feel guilty about being angry. I normally have good reason to be angry b/c I let the situation continue until I just can't take it anymore.

Sunday, January 13, 2008


I am so excited about this coming weekend. The only thing that is killing me is that I finally got the shoes and they aren't comfortable. I found some cute replacements but couldn't get them today. I wasn't angry but that may be because I kept the day's sermon with me. I get ready to return some shoes that were the wrong size and not as cute as I want them to be and the lady tells me that the gift card system was jacked up.

Stace--My uncle and his wife are from GA and Michigan. The plan was to get married in FL so no one would come to the wedding. Didn't go down like that at all and you know black folks don't like to RSVP--not the prettiest thing.

What is the dress for Posh?

You know God is good!

My short getaway was fun and eye opening. My friend's soon to be ex-husband has some serious issues! I don't even know how to explain but let's just say he is on some I can't be in a committed relationship type stuff after the birth of baby #2. Can you say cut some something? I don't know what I would have done and I hope I don't ever have to find out.

My back is engaged! I am so happy for them! I finally met him about two months ago and they just seemed so right together!

You know if I got married in the next year I can't name one person who would be in my wedding. Ok maybe I can name a couple of ladies but maid/matron of honor duties I couldn't even think of. I need to do better with my friends.

Thursday, January 10, 2008

Thursday Ramblings But Not Really

My uncle got married in Palm Beach Gardens--I know that is random but I was looking at the location of one of my faithful readers.

I want to be deeper. Do deep people think this or am I just really shallow and I know it? And since I know I am shallow then I want to be deep?

I need money but do you really think I am driving to the middle of nowhere on a Thursday night to some random's house by myself to do a closing? I mean my safety is more important than what is in my bank. I know I am not any safer during the day than I am at night time but it is for my peace of mind.

I hate when people try to blog about something serious and I am so caught up in it and then there is a typo. It throws me off b/c I am the type of person who will try to figure out what it should say. I lose my flow.

I was reading a certain someone's blog and they were talking about our friend group from college and how there are no secrets. I think I have some secrets only because I don't talk to our friend group like everyone else does. I can count on about two fingers how many times I have seen them since graduation. I got caught up at UGA and just didn't talk to them all that much. I mean there are some things they know but then there are a lot of things they don't. It's not even because I don't want them to know it is just b/c I don't have one friend that I talk to regularly which means that even at UGA my closest friends didn't know everything. I just tell the person that I speak to at that particular time what is going on. I just told one friend about Homecoming 2004 and she might have told but it wasn't that deep for her to tell--ok maybe it was that deep but so much more was going on at the time that I told that particular secret. I miss my college friends and the closeness we shared in college. My plan is to do better and build those bonds once again.

I am ready for the Reunion weekend and thanks Southern Belle in the Big City (your new nickname from me) for the weekend rules. I do have one question though--what are the excuses for or should I say who are the excuses for?

My shoes were shipped on Tuesday so they should be here before I leave.

I came up with the cutest idea for an outfit on Friday night--at least the shirt. I just want to say it is very hard to find a bandeau in the stores in January. I would have ordered one from Victoria's Secret but they have gotten enough of my money in the past two months.

So shouldn't NBC be talking to the producers and what not about this strike. NBC is losing an estimated $80 million b/c there will be no Golden Globes. I think the producers need to start talking to the writers. Don't they know there are certain shows that I must see--pissed that I am not watching a new Ugly Betty.

I am going to see my friend tomorrow. We are doing well right now but then I am not expecting much from him.

Why did someone get mad at me b/c I told them to tell me everything about them but they wanted me to be specific. Don't ask me what I want to know and I say everything and you get mad. You need to be an almost open book if you insist on talking to me.

Thanks for reading!

Tuesday, January 8, 2008

What I Think

Were Hillary's tears real? I mean I love Bill but I can't say the same for Hillary.

Why do I have to call you to ask you to send me paper in the mail when you could have told me to download it from your website. Shullbit!

I am too cute to be unhappy!

Damn striking writers!

Damn those networks who decided to have a show at 10:00 p.m. most nights b/c there is always something else on that I want to see.

Me and my boo have a running joke that isn't that funny to me but I am working through it. That or soon he is going to get cursed out--we will find out sooner or later.

I am so excited about the reunion! I can't wait to see my girls and maybe future husband will be there. I didn't send him the Christmas card b/c I just wasn't feeling it at that time.

My mommy defended her dissertation today so as soon as she makes the necessary corrections to her paper she will be Dr. Coco's MOM. I am so proud of her and glad it is over b/c she doesn't remember how to do simple stuff on a computer (I had to fix a couple of long quotes--you know the indents and what not).

I need to send out the email to my friends about my birthday celebration. I have the itinerary. If my out of town friends come I am going to get a nice hotel room and the plan is to pay for it myself b/c I got the hookup but don't tell anybody.

Good question: Do really wanna go, or do you not know how to stay?

Saturday, January 5, 2008

I Know I am Wrong But..

I had to do it.


1. In 2008, Iota Phi Theta Will Be Relevant!
2. For 2008 in its entirety, Omega Psi Phi will have more Graduates than Suspended Chapters!
3. Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc. will cut back HATING at least 85%!
4. Starting on Jan. 1st members of Kappa Alpha Psi will NOT be allowed to have their Canes in the following: Funerals, Church, or Public Restrooms!
5. Alpha Phi Alpha MUST choose a MASCOT! A Sphinx, A Gorilla, A Snake, or Martin Luther King.
6. All Zeta's will get mandatory perms!
7. All AKA's will be required to spend at least 200 hrs. OFF of their High Horse!
8. Members of Delta Sigma Theta will be required to MEET ALL their Line Sisters!
9. All SGRho's Will be required to HANG OUT with the rest of society at LEAST (2) Nights a Week!

Friday, January 4, 2008

I Remembered

I remembered the other things I wanted to write about and even found a post it to write it down on.

Question: Why do people say once you have sex you can't stop? I don't believe this but then I am not one of those people who go out and just do the deed with any and everybody. If there is no emotion involved then I have no use for it. The one or two times that no emotion was involved were the only times that I even thought to do the deed with said individuals.

I love myself but I don't think I am as happy with myself as I could be. I see my flaws and I don't like them. I am working on loving those flaws and correcting some of them (at least the ones that need to be corrected). (When I feel like discussing it and breaking it down more there will be a longer post about this but right now I am still finding and truly conquering my issues about this one.)

I am not a holy roller or anything but I strongly believe in God and all that he does for us as a whole. So imagine my anger when this little old lady said God had nothing to do with the rain on the evening news and how people need to stop holding prayer meetings for rain. Ok maybe there shouldn't be prayer meetings but I know I am going to pray that this state/region receives more rain b/c I don't like the idea of running out of drinking water among other things. She said it so matter of factly and it pissed me off.

So I sent out Christmas cards and the address labels had CSM, J.D. I was hoping that people weren't thinking I was flaunting the J.D. I really wasn't those were leftover labels from my graduation thank you cards. Once those are all used up there will be no more address labels that announce my profession unless I am sending out business mail. I was so disturbed when I received cards back that said CSM, J.D. and I was really hoping that the people didn't think I was being all uppity and whatnot. I am proud to be a J.D. but the people I sent the cards to already knew about the two extra letters behind my name--no need to announce it again.


I have been blog hopping today and got so many things I want to talk about but probably won't get to all of them b/c you know I have ADD (self-diagnosed, of course).

But first I have to talk about being disturbed. So I was flipping through the channels and as I passed BET the cast of "The Wire" was on there. Of course I stopped b/c I love that show and will be sitting in front of my t.v. Sunday night to watch the season premiere. Don't call b/c I will not answer and I am telling you now I am hitting the ignore button. But anyway they were all talking and the audience was extra excited. So the girls are screaming for "Snoop" and I was so confused. I have nothing against people who are gay but I mean they would have given her some if they could. Then she says, "You are a woman! I love me a woman!" Why did I have to see that? She has a book out and I think I want to read it but I am afraid. Also watch BET on Tuesday--they are doing a special on Barack and his impact on black people if he wins the election. Hopefully it will be insightful!

You people better go out and vote during your state's primary. I don't care who you vote for--just exercise the right to vote. I have my preferences but I can't force them on you. Do your research and make the decision that is best for you! Also I want to say there is something scary about Mike Huckabee--I don't know what it is but it is there.

So I have been doing something thinking about my so called New Year's Resolutions and I realize that there is only one that really matters and I don't even think I wrote or typed it out. Let God take control of it all. There are certain areas in my life where I know I let go of the wheel awhile ago but then others where I just won't let it go. I mean I worry like crazy. Someone called my phone at 2:46 a.m. and woke me up from some good sleep. Since I was awake I was lying in the bed worrying aobut something that I have very little control over. I think I went to sleep at 4 or 5 this morning.

Do you ever think that you have it made? I think I do b/c I have very few real worries. I know people who are going through and I know God is going to take care of them.

So I think I am going to write a book called "Where Did We Go Wrong?" It will be about where we go wrong in the rearing of children. I don't have children but I see adults who had good parents acting a plum ass. I think I can pinpoint some of the problems.

There will be more to come once I remember what else I had to say.

Thursday, January 3, 2008


Barack Obama took Iowa! I appreciate the opportunity to see history being made. Anybody who reads this blog needs to register to vote if you haven't already and then go out to vote in your primary. I know one thing I will be doing February 5--going to the poles and casting a ballot in the primary. Won't tell you who I am voting for but know that I will be casting a ballot in the Democratic primary. The November election will be historic no matter who wins the primaries b/c there will be a woman or a black man on the ballot--maybe even both. I thank all the people who suffered in the past to ensure that I could go to the voting booth and pull a lever or hit a button on a screen. Your struggle was not in vain.


I want to be somewhere else right now.

I ordered the flyest shoes a couple of weeks ago and they came in the mail yesterday. So beautiful but a half size too small :( Hopefully I can get the right size before the Blackout II!

Why do I feel like I am being hazed by this man who is trying to help me get a job? Dude, gave me a research task. You know I am stuff so I did it immediately but I still feel hazed.

I want to thank my friends who check up on me via this blog. I wish we talked more often but I will be honest and say I don't call you b/c I hate when you are busy and can't answer my phone call. That may be why when we talk it is usually b/c you call me. I love you bunches--I hope you know I am talking to you!

I can't wait until Blackout weekend b/c I get to see my sistafriends and my sister from another family (forget that mister mess).

I have planned my birthday weekend but the more I look at the itinerary that is a lot to do in two days.

You know what irritates me? I am so irritated when people say she is a "beautiful, BLACK girl. Why can't she just be beautiful? The same goes with any other random adjective.

Tuesday, January 1, 2008


Happy New Year!!!! I wish everyone a prosperous and blessed year! Enjoy it!